The Blue Meanies.

[blackberry444]

I'm feeling a bit blue today.  And I also feel mean and guilty.

On Saturday John and our friends are going to York to an air show where they are going to fly a Lancaster bomber.  I think it may be one of the new ones they've recently built, but I don't know.

A wants to go because her father was crew in one in WW2 and miraculously survived when the rest of his crew didn't;  D naturally wants to go where his wife goes.  John loves air-shows.

D has a mobility scooter but it's too big to go either into his boot or ours, so, of course, I've had to volunteer not only the use of Lucy, but Libby too.  I shall be almost entirely housebound for the whole of Saturday.  Their car will be outside the house, but I'm not insured to use it. 

No-one has even said thank you yet, let alone considered that I might like to go now that I have a mobility scooter.  I haven't been able to go on these little jaunts for ages because I couldn't walk very far and can't stand still in one place for more than a few seconds so the three of them have got used to going out together without me.

I'm sure they would all feel horrified if they knew how I'm feeling and I don't feel as though I can even say anything about it to John or Charles;  they've all just got used to the status quo!

I feel really mean about this and although I have to admit that I'm not really interested in air shows, I do like to go on days out to places where they have interesting stalls of things to buy and in having lunch out with my friends and maybe visiting a pub or the beer-tent.

As it is, I shall be staying at home waiting for a Sainsbury's delivery of very expensive Gluten Free foodstuffs for Charles, and because John is broke at the moment, I shall have to fill the car with diesel on Friday and give/lend him £50 for expenses on the day.

I feel so resentful.  I am just a horrible person!

Comments

[cat63.livejournal.com]

I feel so resentful. I am just a horrible person!

No you're not! I'd be resentful too in your place - you'd think they'd at least ask if you wanted to go,even if it was a "question expecting the answer no", and at the very least they could say thank you for the loan of your transport. Ingrates!

[is very cross on your behalf]

[gipsy-dreamer.livejournal.com]

You are *not* a horrible person - you simply want a day out which we are all entitled to! Nothing wrong with that hun, and I would personally feel quite resentful of giving up my independance for a day even if I didn't want to go to the air show myself. You're giving up a lot for those few hours and have every right to feel upset and say something about it.

*hugs* xx

[k425.livejournal.com]

You are not a horrible person. They've got used to taking advantage of the situation without noticing that the situation has changed. And unless you say something it's going to keep on happening and you're going to keep on feeling resentful and G, that's not good for your health!

[artela.livejournal.com]

You are not a horrible person for feeling left out and excluded.
If you want to go along, even if it's now not possible for _this_ trip, please please please *tell them* that you would like to be included in such things in future!

[g8bur.livejournal.com]

You are not a horrible person. They're apparently taking for granted that you'll acquiesce to whatever arrangements suit their purpose and convenience, and they don't seem to be considering you at all. I'd be pretty miffed, too, in that sort of situation.

I agree with k425 - I think you should tell them that you feel excluded when they do this sort of thing. The fact that they have got used to the status quo doesn't in any way invalidate your feelings, nor does it disqualify you from making them known.

[aellia.livejournal.com]

Aw..don't ever feel that you're mean for feeling like that.
If there is no way that you can go then really treat yourself to nice food and a sit in the sunshine that's promised.
Hugs
xxx

[aellia.livejournal.com]

Can four of you fit in your car with the scooter?
And does D need it all the time?
If he doesn't you could share it maybe.
I hope that there's a way for you to go if you tell John

[blackberry44.livejournal.com]

We could all fit in the car with the scooter, but sadly D & I both need it all the time.

I feel better this morning and I've decided to forget about it this time, but have a tactful word with John about it in a couple of weeks

[nevilley.livejournal.com]

Yeah, what they said.
{{{hug}}}

[incognitas.livejournal.com]

Wish I was there to spend the day with you but as I've still got this vile virus it's as well I'm not.

Pity you can't invite a friend round for a girls session,or can you?

[blackberry44.livejournal.com]

That's a bit difficult since A is going with them and I don't really have that kind of relationship with my other friends as they're mainly to do with writing and literary stuff. I'm sure that a couple of them would be up for a girly session, but I feel a bit too shy to ask. In any case, I have Charles here all day. Besides, I'm not really very girly, as you know.

No, it'll be all right. I'm going to do some stuff in the yard if it doesn't rain and loll about all day, reading, watching DVDs and TV (if there's anything to watch!) Charles has already taken care of dinner.

[blackberry44.livejournal.com]

What virus? Not swine flu?

You poor thing!

[incognitas.livejournal.com]

Started as a heavy cold and seems to have become something like laryngitis for the last 4 days..feeling slightly better but still off colour.Lost my appetite and have had to start wearing a belt on my trousers.

So I've been like this for OVER A FORTNIGHT.

Never knew there were so many versions and flavours of snot.